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Tuesday, August 30, 2005

Playa-bound

aka Homeward-bound.

I leave in less than an hour for Black Rock City. After picking up a women I've never met, except on the phone, we'll drive the 8 hours to the playa. Mark will be leaving tomorrow.

I will be incommunicado for one week. No cell phones, internet, email. There is snail mail though! So that is what I'll be using.

If you're curious about this desert thing - check out www.burningman.com. And check back next week. I'll have more photos and will post about some of the more PG experiences. ;-)

Sunday, August 28, 2005

PhotoBlog

Mark discovered some spiffy software that allows us to easily do a photoblog! So, from now on there will be a new photo every day at I spy. Please check them out. They'll be different from the ones I post here. The first series of photos on the photoblog will be from burning man two years ago. The link to the photoblog will always be in the sidebar.

Friday, August 26, 2005

Playa Dust Here I Come



I am the proud new owner of this veteran Burner Bike. I'm talking about the rusty, blue, Huffy, ladies cruiser with the leopard print seat cover, in front of all the other shiney bikes. I don't know how many times it's been to the playa, but I sense that it's many, many more than me. It is a very Happy bike.

So, I am ready.

I am ready to go home to Black Rock City. To enjoy all the crazy dust, wind, sun, costumes, art, fire, nudity, sex, drugs, rock-n-roll, dancing, freedom, serendipity, challenges, conincidences - and most of all - people. Burners are some of the most dynamic, generous, creative, beautiful, adventurous people I have every met.

Up until today, I'd been somewhat ambivalent about going. Camping or backpacking sounded just as good, if not better. Because, like it or not, burning man is a fair bit of work to get ready for. One has to get enough food, water, costumes, gear together to survive a week in one of the harshest climates on the planet. Burning Man takes place in the Black Rock Desert, which is an ancient, dry lake bed that spreads for miles with absolutely NO vegetation at 4,000 feet. It's over 100 during the day and in the 50's at night. Not a very friendly place for a pale-skinned red-head.

In fact, last year, I suffered a severe case of dehydration which took me out of commission for about half of my time on the playa. I was there 9 days last year, heading up the set up for Women's Temple. On the third day, after the camp was set up, I felt like I had the worst case of the flu possible, fever, chills, weakness, body aches... I'd worked too hard, and didn't take enough breaks, while we were setting up camp. I did a poor job knowing and setting my boundaries and put the camp's need before my own. I thought I'd been drinking enough water because I was pissing clear, but I guess that's not enough. Salt and Sugar are vitally necessary. So, last year's experience put a huge damper on this year's enthusiasm.

But, finally, I'm ready to go.

I'm excited.

I am so glad.

Monday, August 22, 2005

Quote of the Day

"We're naive, too."

spoken by the San Francisco Police Officer at the Tenderloin Station after taking the report of my stolen bike. It was the first time I'd taken my bike for a ride in the city. I was in the main library for less than an hour.

Thursday, August 18, 2005

Happily Ever After

Really?

So I just finished watching Four Weddings and a Funeral. I haven't been this disgusted after a movie since Love Actually! Can't Hugh Grant make any movies where people have relationship that are based on more than lust? more than instant chemistry? He has been in better movies, hasn't he?

At any rate, my tolerance for sappy cheesy romantic girley movies has noticeably decreased over that last several years. (I'm going to rant a little bit more here, so pardon me.) This type of movie contributes to and is an example of the disease in our culture of the Fairy Tale syndrome. Where all a person has to do is to meet The One other right person who they're instantly attracted to and it will be rosy forever.

I'm sorry, but that's not really how it works. Yes. It is important to be physically and chemically attracted to a person. But more important is their being a good friend and a good person. Someone who I trust implicitly. Who I would do anything for. Who I seek when I'm troubled or joyful. With whom I talk, listen, laugh, love, disagree, compromise, negotiate and play. Who I question, advise, look out for, care for, nuture and love no matter how bitchy or cranky or crazy they (or I) are every now and then. I love them because I know them and they know me. Our friendship has been built and tried over time. It didn't blossom easily over the course of four chance meetings, but then again we're not Hugh Groan or Andi McDunce.

Maybe in the movies, they really do get to know each other, and it all just ends up on the cutting room floor. Somehow, I doubt that.

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Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Berkeley



I've spent nearly the last week in West Berkeley housesitting. It's really more cat-sitting than house-sitting. There are three cats. In the picture is my favorite - Boo. Boo sleeps on the bed with me at night and is marking my computer as I type. He watches the yarn intently, but respectfully, when I knit. He laid on my back and cleaned my hair while I finished The Bonesetter's Daughter this afternoon in the only patch of sun in the house. After I laid the book down, he promptly took ownership of that corner of the bed.

The October Palace

by Jane Hirshfield

Ripeness is
What falls away with ease.
Not only the heavy apple,
the pear,
But also the dried brown strands of autumn iris from their core.

To let your body
love this world
that gave itself to your care
in all of its ripeness,
with ease,
and will take itself from you
in equal ripeness and ease,
is also harvest.

And however sharply
you are tested -
this sorrow, that great love -
it too will leave on that clean knife.

Wednesday, August 10, 2005

Reading List

Currently Reading

  • Ethics for a New millennium - by the Dalai Lama who excels at talking to a non-religious and non-spiritual audience about ethics and happiness
  • Leaving Home - by Garrison Keillor
  • Leaning into the Wind - a collection of short stories by women of the West


By the Bed
  • Moral Politics - the extended version of Don't Think of an Elephant by George Lakoff
  • Letters to a Young Contrarian - This requires a dictionary!


Just Finished
  • The Bonesetter's Daughter - by Amy Tan. This was the first book of Amy's that I've read. It took a few chapters to get into it, after which I proceeded to devour it in the course of 48 hours. It's a heart-wrenching story of mothers and daughters, which is ultimately hopeful.
  • Better Off - a book about a couple who go to live in a community without machines to see if "labor-saving devices" really save labor. This was an Excellent book. It reminded me of forgotten dreams of homesteading. More importantly, it showed me that living a simple life can happen in a city too. After leaving the farming community, they moved to a small town in Missouri and then to an artsy neighborhood in downtown St. Louis, while still living via a cottage industry.
  • Time Off! The Upside to Downside - a great practical guide to taking and enjoying lots of time off! An inspiration, truly. ;-)
  • La'Affair - about a young Palo Alton who made it mega-rich before the bubble burst and went to France to "better" herself. Exasperating.
  • Dreaded Broccoli - awesome cookbook! make mostly vegetarian cooking sound easy and delicious.



On the Shelf
  • This is Burning Man
  • The Fabulous Sylvester
  • The Soul of Money
  • The Chalice and the Blade
  • Home Buying for Dummies


Favorites
  • Succulent Wild Women, by Sark
  • The Red Tent, by Anita Diamant
  • The Dance of the Dissident Daughter, by Sue Monk Kidd
  • A Country Year, by Sue Hubbell
  • Time Enough for Love, by Robert Heinlein


Not on my Shelf Yet
  • A Year by the Sea
  • From Good to Great
  • When God was a Woman
  • The Alphabet vs. the Goddess
  • Sex, Time and Power
  • San Francisco: Musical History
  • A Woman's Book of Life
  • Salmon Without Rivers
  • Homebuyer's Survival Guide
  • How to Buy a House in California
  • The 106 Common Mistakes Homebuyers Make (and how to avoid them)

When Religion and/or Spirituality Meet Politics

George Lakoff drew this connection most directly, albeit simply.

In Lakoff's linguistic study politics, he noticed two family models that correlated roughly to progressive and conservatives. (This is very simplified. For a more detailed version, read at least the first essay in Don't Think of an Elephant.)

The conservative family model is one based on an evil, scary world that needs a strict father to protect the children and teach them morality and right from wrong via punishment, so that they can succeed in the world by making a lot of money.

In some denominations of Christianity, god takes the form of the strict father who will punish you with hell if you do not obey his rules about right and wrong. If you do obey, you are rewarded with success, which is heaven. This is the kind of god that I do not believe in and that contributed to my leaving the Christian faith.

What happens when this meets politics is a lot of what we've seen the last five years. The successful (i.e. wealthy and therefore moral) are rewarded by paying less taxes. With less tax revenue, this justifies cutting aid programs for the under-privaleged, which would only keep them from developing the discipline they need to succeed. The rights and choices of women being downgraded because they did not obey their father and had sex anyway. The list goes on...

The progressive family model is one where nuturant parents believe the world can be made a better place through empathy, cooperation, fairness, freedom, opportunity and open, honest, two-way communication.

In some denominations of Christianity and other religions, god takes the form of the nurturant parent (male, female and/or both) who gives unconditional love and support.

The resulting politics is one where individuals and communities contribute resources for the common good which enables individuals to succeed, i.e. make the world a better place. Those resources are taxes. The common good benefits from the FDIC, SEC, our highways, cleaner air and water, among other things government created. Basically spreading the wealth around a little bit, because not everyone had an even playing field from the start.

Lakoff points out that most, if not all of us, have some combination of both of these models in our personalities. This definitely rings true for me. Even while typing this, I feel the tension between a strong Darwin streak and compassionate empathy. While I've been generally trending towards the more progressive side for a while (ok, maybe that's an understatement), that I recognize the strictness within myself, I hope is a tool for futher understanding and communicating with the conservative, partial progressives that are our there.

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Friday, August 05, 2005

Photo Gallery

Mid-West, Summer 2005









London, January 2005









Bath, January 2005










Beach House, January 2005









San Francisco, 2004

Some of my quilts

Seattle and Portland, Fall/Winter 2003

Burning Man, 2003

Tracker School, Spring 2003

Mountain View Peace Rally, Spring 2003

San Francisco Peace Rally, Spring 2003

Various from 2003-2004

Coyote Ridge

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Tuesday, August 02, 2005

Eyes


This is part of a mural on the side of a pizza place on Mission near 14th.

Today, I walked down to the SFMOMA (free entry on the first Tuesday of the month) to meet Mark. On my way back, I stopped in a Miss Marty's hair school to get some hairs cut. I was matched with Swirtha. She's from Bangalor, India and has been in the US 6 years with her husband from an arranged marriage. She has a master's in communication, a four year old son, and likes to play with hair. She did a good job. And it was only $8. For that price I won't complain, and I'll even go back. She has another six months before she's done and it'll be fun to let her learn on my hair.

Tiramisu


Yesterday, I walked down Valencia to the local library branch to get my library card. On the way back, I stopped in Lucca's, which is a great little market for anything Italian. Had I realized this earlier, I would have made tiramisu ages ago! I'd been waiting for over a year to find the right lady finger cookies, which they had right in the front door! I picked up some marscopone and headed home for a taste adventure.

This recipe was given to me by Massimilliano, a Roman surgeon who stayed with us for a month in Portola Valley.

As he wrote it:
Serves Six.
200 gr sugar
500 gr Mascorpone cheese
Six eggs
Coffee
Two box of savoiardi biscuits.

Sepere the yolk with sugar
Shake the six yolk with sugar (little marsala)
Beat whites. when the white is like snow,* stop.
Mix yolk with marscarpone and then with snow.
Take savoiardi and dunk the cookie in coffee for 1 second. double face.
Big pan.
1- floor cookie.
2- cream
3- floor cookie
4- floor cream
little cocao,
chill for two hours in the refridegerator.
enjoy.


*"Snow" is stiff peaks.

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Monday, August 01, 2005

Geisha


Another mural in the Mission.

Yesterday, I went swing dancing in Golden Gate Park. I hadn't been dancing in ages, maybe a year or more. I've left and entered the dancing scene here at least two or three times already. About a quarter of the faces are familiar and, of course, I couldn't remember their names. But that's ok. They didn't remember me either. The dancers I knew...maybe they've moved on... At any rate, it's reassuring to know that my body still remembers how to dance.

Religion

At the Spiritual Activism conference, there were a lot of religious types, as attendees and at the podium. At times this was challenging for me, because I have long ago left religion and not looked back. I was confirmed in the UCC Christian Protestant denomination. (They aired commercials last year openly welcoming gays and lesbians. Note: not all congregations are that open.) After I was confirmed, I stopped going to church. The only real reason I had been going was the youth group. I soon found that the ties there were pretty shallow.

After UCC, I attended a tiny Unity church for a couple of years. I was the only high-schooler in the congregation. I appreciated that the adults treated me with respect. I learned a lot of important principles there. Unity is a lot like the Unitarian Universalists - both take a more pan-religious approach to being a good person. It was here I first learned about other major world religions. Then, for various teenager related reasons, I stopped going. The only people this really concerned was my grandparents, devout Missouri Synod Lutherns.

So, the conference was definitely the most exposure to religious stuff I'd had in over a decade.

And, ya know, I was pleasantly surprised. I didn't realize that there were so many progressive, open religious types out there. Part of this conference's purpose, was to give structure, strength and courage to the religious progressives, so that their voice can become as strong as the voice of the religious conservatives. I hope it works.

Quotes from the conference

Jim Wallis, author of God's Politics (which is now on my reading list), was one of the keynote speakers.
"Religions' job is to pull out our best stuff."
"Seperation of church and state does not equal segregation of values from the political discourse."
"Faith is about changing the big things."
"We have a choice between hope and cynacism. Hope is believing in spite of the evidence and seeing the evidence change. Cynacism is a place for people who once believed the world could change and is a buffer against committment."
"Vocation is where your gift meets the crushing needs of the world."
"All major progressive movements [abolition, women's suffrage, civil rights...] were fueld by spirit."
"We are the ones we've been waiting for."

Quotes from the Dalai Lama, Ethics for the New Millinnium
"Religion I take to be concerned with faith in the claims to salvation of one faith tradition or another, an aspect of which is acceptance of some form of metaphysical or supernatural reality, including perhaps an idea of heaven or nirvana. Connected with this are religious teachings or dogma, ritual, prayer, and so on....While ritual and prayer, along with the questions of nirvana and salvation, are directly connected to religious faith, these inner qualities [love and compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, contentment, a sense of responsibility, a sense of harmony] need not be, however. There is thus no reason why the individual should not develop them, even to a high degree, without recourse to any religious or metaphysical belief system. This is why I sometimes say that religion is something we can perhaps do without. What we cannot do without are these basic spritual qualities."

In my opinion, the Dalai Lama rocks.

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